I don'y know how much of "a secret " it is.I think sometimes, the only reason Tommy has "stayed" with her is outta "familiararity"
Their past, the kids, all of it.
When you have been or " in" a relationship for so long, even if its not so good, it is familiar.
You do not have the fear of "starting-over" so to speak.
I'm not validating it, but know from first hand experience.Let's say your with someone for 9+ years, you do have feelings, you do care,...somewhat, even if the relationship has took a turn for the worst.
It is familiar, as sad as that sounds, some people don't or will not "start-over"Even though I'm 40 [some of you will say that is young] I have come to find, that being compatible with someone [no gender in specific] but if you are able to find someone to share all of lifes up's AND down's, you are a "rich" person.I think Tommy was finding that in the "new gal" and was realizing that.Sex in a relationship, does not define the love and respect in a relationship.
When the "sex" is gone, you better have a hellova foundation, which is what it should of been built on in the first place, compatibility, OUTSIDE the bedroom.;)   See 1 other reply

lolthe uhhhs can be a bit long, but it's funny. personally, i thought that was the brilliant part of leary's acting bit. when tommy's in between a stone and a hard place, that's how he talks - out of his a__.   See 1 other reply