is there no one capable of admitting that there is a healthy medium?   See 11 other replies

I had an asian mother and a white father growing up and I know that scenario WAY too well. It was really though for my brothers and I to stay positive in general. After being told how worthless you are when I was in the National Honor Society and Varsity athelete in numerous sports, you start to believe it. I don't believe in the "Tiger Mom" methods. I believe they're demeaning, wrong, sad, and negative. No child should ever have to go through what my brothers and I had to. We thank god everyday, we turned out so loving and positive after the fact.
My message to all the children who've gone through it and are going through it today:
Excel in life the best way you can. Be good to others and take care of eachother.   See 11 other replies

i think it is totally wrong to scream at your daughter or son if they don't bring home as you said the highest grade in the class. My parents always supported me and they did push me to do better but not in this way.   See 11 other replies

Being a Tiger mom is also not the only way to raise intelligent children, nor does it always work. My mom's philosophy was simple: As long as you try your hardest and give it your all, I don't care what grades you bring home. That was all it took for me to push myself and now I'm at a top university. Furthermore I knew a woman who was the most supportive mom you'd ever see, she always had something nice to say about everyone. She was extremely complimentary to her son. He graduated from an Ivy League. On the flip side I knew a boy who had a Tiger mom and instead of succeeding he dropped out of school and has no steady income.   See 11 other replies

We recently talked about Tiger Mom in my Family Relations class. Even though this system may have worked for some of you, studies prove it is far more damaging. There is a reason Asian Females have a high rate of suicide and from what we learned, having harsh and unappreciative parents was a big part of that. It is ok to be tough on your child and to expect a high standard but you have to equal that with love and understanding.Sometimes children are just not capable of being perfect at something you think they should be. You should expect the best from your individual child, not seek for them to be better than everyone else. Parenting is tough and there are many ways to go about it but I certainly believe the way Tiger Mom acted is simply not one of them. Children thrive off positive much more than negative.   See 11 other replies

I also had what one might consider a Tiger Mom. If I ever came home with a B on my report card or lower, privileges were drastically reduced (no tv or going out with friends). If I came home with a progress report (the report card in between report cards) which showed no improvement, more privileges were taken away (like my door and reading for fun).I turned out fine. The mental issues I have stem from much earlier in life, and have nothing to do with a mother who was strict about education. The funny thing is, my mother wasn't this way with my sister when it came to education, nor was she this way with my brother. I asked her recently why she was so difficult on me when it came to my education, and she told me that it was because she knew I had the potential, and she didn't want me to waste it. I talked to my brother (who is a bit younger than me, so I wasn't there for a lot of his childhood), and he said she was the same way about his music. The privileges revoked were different, as we both cared about vastly different things, but the intent was the same. She did't want us to let ourselves down.Parents who think it's okay for a child to bring home C's weird me out. As do the ones who just let their kids give up on things because they don't like it. I was in band from the fourth grade through till high school. No, I was never better than average, but my mother wouldn't let me quit, because I said I would commit to it, and that's what was going to happen. To this day, my memories from hanging out in the band hall are some of my favorites, and I always keeps my promises.I think parents in this country today are way too easy on their kids, and I think it's easy to tell that just by looking around.   See 11 other replies