The issue is complex.Foremost, the United States can be a hostile place to live for gay people. As recently as 2003, homosexuality was illegal in 13 states. Currently, gay men and women can be denied housing and employment in 34 states. This causes some gay people hide or repress their sexuality for fear of persecution.One who is hiding his sexuality may marry and have children to comply with family and social pressure; and one who is repressing his sexuality may believe that marrying and having children will eliminate his homosexual feelings.Also consider that while most gay men and women have the same desire to marry, have children, and form families as their straight counterparts, it is illegal for them to marry and adopt in 42 states. Some gay people may believe that marrying someone of the opposite sex is the only way for them to have marriage, children, and family.Deception and impropriety are always wrong, but we should also understand how the negative societal reaction to homosexuality contributes to this problem.

HIV is not a gay disease. Just because her husband was sleeping with a man does not automatically put her at risk for HIV.