^^^^ that is one of the things i am talking about and then she will just blame other people for her own mistakes   See 16 other replies

no kidding she had a horrible atitude to almost everyone and was picking fights with anyone who got near her and omfg the only reason why she was getting better is because she was horribly inconsistent ... granted i would love to be able to cook half as well as these people but ffs we are talking about people who are interviewing for a job and she just alienates people with abusive language as if she is owning the place already not biding for a job there   See 16 other replies

Have you ever heard the story of the two wolves? To sum up there are two wolves fighting for each mans soul, one good, one evil. The one that wins is the one you feed the most. "You're" feeding the wrong wolf my man. Two wrongs don't make a right etc......Miss Marple learned me that.   See 31 other replies

(cont’)Should I feel as if I “over-reacted” to someone like that? Sure, if they were a child or feeble-minded. But to an adult that should know better? No.Wrapping up my point; he made a criticism, you made a criticism. I don’t tailor a reply based on a difference of opinion, but on how it’s conveyed. You presented a clear argument, intelligently written, free of derision and making a valid, well thought out point. I respect and appreciate that, and I’m replying accordingly. Had you rambled, acted like a jerk, or obviously not even bothered to proofread before clicking submit, I would have responded… well, pretty much like I did to those two chuckleheads - except I would have only bothered with the usual ten minutes and not taken a few more.   See 31 other replies

(cont')Even though I can’t see any possible way a person would not understand putting the outcome of a show in its title is inconsiderate and a “spoiler,” I wouldn’t have said anything at just that. Unfortunately it happens all the time.
But after someone brought up the issue, Gerson had the audacity to make a smart-@ss comment back about them being “mistaken [he] didn’t mark this post as a spoiler.” Also, his English is good enough where one can tell the point didn’t just go over his head.At this juncture I’ll address your theater counter-example. The person who brought up the point was the one who “quietly asked him to be quiet.” His response was the equivalent of “mind your own d@mn business.” That sort of makes trying to be polite a bit moot now. Furthermore, reiterating the point I made above being that reading and posting in a forum is completely voluntary, then my reaction is completely unlike loudly complaining to the rest of the theater seeing as how no one is forced to read what I post; they can simply scroll past if they feel it inconveniences or does not concern them.As far as Modobes goes, it’s the same scenario. Maybe you only read his original response, the “And your different because... ?” I did not make a judgement on his intelligence because there was an implied criticism, I made a judegement based on him not knowing the difference between “your” and “you’re.” Not to mention it wasn’t much of a judgement, just a quick jab (I mean really, how hard is it to proofread four words?).
Even though I detected his comment was meant to be snide, I invited him to expound before I said anything. And he did reply… twice. The responses were snide, he again demonstrated a lack of intelligence, and so at this point I felt no need to refrain from “hurting his feelings.” (cont’ next reply)   See 31 other replies

Whenever a new topic is created in a “Discussion” forum, the original poster is freely choosing to convey a thought or an opinion, and by doing that also conveying an impression of their self. The same can be said of anyone who chooses to make a reply or put forth a new thought into said discussion.
If a remark is silly or humorous, then the only expectations one can have are silly and humorous replies. If a remark is serious and contemplative, then one should expect serious and contemplative discussion in kind. If a remark is posted by an adult that appears to have typed by a second-grader, then comments befitting someone who is an adult but acting like a second-grader will probably be given. And if a remark is rude and inconsiderate, reactions that aren’t exactly “nice” will most likely be forthcoming.One should also consider intent and put things into perspective; absolutely sometimes someone says something that is misinterpreted, or offends without intending to, or typos or “misspeaks.” And I agree that it’s “rude” to metaphorically pounce on someone for something like that.However, if someone is blatantly being rude, offensive, willfully-stupid, or a smart-@ss then I personally have absolutely no problem responding in kind. Also, it takes me all of ten minutes or so to respond with three or four paragraphs, and about five seconds to run the spell-checker before I hit submit… so, it’s not like I’m exactly “going out of my way” either.That said, both Gerson and Modobes were being pretty brazen.(cont’ next reply)   See 31 other replies

My point is, there are different kinds of rudeness. There's being inconsiderate, and then there's being abusive. One does not justify the other. Sure, it's rude to post spoilers in the subject line. But that doesn't make it ok to make extremely insulting, and utterly unrelated, judgments about their morality and intelligence in return.And that's not to mention how you've treated Modobes. When somebody criticizes your behavior, it is not acceptable, not to mention it's not exactly flattering to you, if you respond by insulting their intelligence:
"Then again, apparently you were taught grammar by Miss Marple, so there’s no telling where you picked up rules on politeness.
And finally (oh no, not a conjunction at the beginning of the sentence!), while I know all of this reading is probably giving you a headache it seems you need the practice, so just one more thing.""While I know all of this reading is probably giving you a headache it seems you need the practice"??? Because Modobes had the temerity to criticize your behavior (relatively politely, I might add)? How is that not rude?   See 31 other replies